"I've always felt like there was something about you."
"Something like what?"
"I don't know what it is, I don't even know what I mean...but I have always thought, ever since the first day that you walked into my office that there was something....something to you."
Yes, well.
Welcome to the quest.
Through my involuntary breakdowns I have felt nearer to that mirage. Like my soul has finally found a way into the deep recesses of my psyche only to find what is not there. I have hit a fragile wall, a fire behind glass.
Do I yearn for the heat or for the fire?
Sunday, 18 April 2010
Wednesday, 14 April 2010
get well soon, adlai
"The main objective of a good bass player is to not be noticed."
Can I honestly say that?
Or do I have to be heard, have to be seen?
Can I integrate my contribution to the final number seamlessly, or are solos my only specialty? Are my notes an enrichment of the true song? Or do they fight to be the only sound heard?
With every offering, I am significant. I am special. This ensemble would be completely different without what I bring to the stage.
But a warped neck and a popped string serve as good reminders that it is not about me.
Can I honestly say that?
Or do I have to be heard, have to be seen?
Can I integrate my contribution to the final number seamlessly, or are solos my only specialty? Are my notes an enrichment of the true song? Or do they fight to be the only sound heard?
With every offering, I am significant. I am special. This ensemble would be completely different without what I bring to the stage.
But a warped neck and a popped string serve as good reminders that it is not about me.
Saturday, 10 April 2010
it will
Hear a newborn baby cry
Hear the farmers pray for rain
One more soldier gives his life
A homeless man begs for change
But change won't come easily
What does this have to do with me?
And my heart pounds with a thunder
And I stop and wonder
What should we do with life's surprises?
Everyday the sun rises on us!
Like a swing set in a graveyard,
Like a bloom in the desert sands
Look at my trembling hands!
'Cause it hits me like lightning
That love must keep fighting
And somehow, every time
Love is gonna break through
~Chris Rice
Hear the farmers pray for rain
One more soldier gives his life
A homeless man begs for change
But change won't come easily
What does this have to do with me?
And my heart pounds with a thunder
And I stop and wonder
What should we do with life's surprises?
Everyday the sun rises on us!
Like a swing set in a graveyard,
Like a bloom in the desert sands
Look at my trembling hands!
'Cause it hits me like lightning
That love must keep fighting
And somehow, every time
Love is gonna break through
~Chris Rice
Tuesday, 6 April 2010
blind sided
Over the past few months or so I have been bombarded with different stories of Christian leaders falling into very public sins. Stories of pastors cheating on their wives or vice versa, priests in the Catholic church getting involved with sexual scandals, Christian artists getting involved with each others' spouses in not-so-melodic love triangles...sadly, the list goes on. And part of me knows in the years to come it will continue to expand.
I see these controversies on a large scale, and then I think about myself as a leader in the church on a much smaller scale. I do not pastor or shepherd a congregation...but I have had 12-15 people under my charge every Tuesday night for the past few months. I will probably never write a song that is sung all over the world, blessing the hearts of millions...but I use my mouth to speak life into the people around me on a daily basis. Even if I did not have the title "Family Group Leader", there is still a responsibility to higher living that I have been called to do as an older sister, an older Christian. Meditating on life over these months, I can come up with a fairly sizeable list of my own personal scandals. These character tests I failed, whether it was a subtle recurring thought here or a quiet omission of deed there. Oftentimes the only person that knew about these transgressions was me. What scares me more is that I usually only realized my failure in retrospect. This means that in my busyness I tricked myself into satisfaction, into complacency, into settling where I was.
I have left my heart out, and mold and grime has creeped its way in.
I guess I have been waiting for my big public infraction to emerge before I do any serious deep cleansing. I have subconsciously quantified my sins, allowing offenses that registered lower on my spectrum much more grace than I am allowed to give. Speaking of grace...that has been my punching bag, my neglected friend that I only acknowledge when I need something. I know the point is not to realize how much I suck. But for me to not police myself, to not ask God regularly for checks and balances behind closed doors--I might as well gorge myself on donuts because I reason that at least I'm not gorging on bacon.
I don't know what to do other than ask for forgiveness. I want to humble myself, even in the midst of having a title and/or respect from others. I want my private life to be even more holy than my public life. I want to listen to the cry of my own heart, of this creation that is yet groaning for sanctification. I want to know that God is answering this cry, even when I do not hear it. I want this tension between myself and my God to be something that I engage in actively, where I consistently check my nooks and crannies for intruders.
I want to be hollowed by the Hallowed.
*Remember me, O my God, for good.*
~Nehemiah
I see these controversies on a large scale, and then I think about myself as a leader in the church on a much smaller scale. I do not pastor or shepherd a congregation...but I have had 12-15 people under my charge every Tuesday night for the past few months. I will probably never write a song that is sung all over the world, blessing the hearts of millions...but I use my mouth to speak life into the people around me on a daily basis. Even if I did not have the title "Family Group Leader", there is still a responsibility to higher living that I have been called to do as an older sister, an older Christian. Meditating on life over these months, I can come up with a fairly sizeable list of my own personal scandals. These character tests I failed, whether it was a subtle recurring thought here or a quiet omission of deed there. Oftentimes the only person that knew about these transgressions was me. What scares me more is that I usually only realized my failure in retrospect. This means that in my busyness I tricked myself into satisfaction, into complacency, into settling where I was.
I have left my heart out, and mold and grime has creeped its way in.
I guess I have been waiting for my big public infraction to emerge before I do any serious deep cleansing. I have subconsciously quantified my sins, allowing offenses that registered lower on my spectrum much more grace than I am allowed to give. Speaking of grace...that has been my punching bag, my neglected friend that I only acknowledge when I need something. I know the point is not to realize how much I suck. But for me to not police myself, to not ask God regularly for checks and balances behind closed doors--I might as well gorge myself on donuts because I reason that at least I'm not gorging on bacon.
I don't know what to do other than ask for forgiveness. I want to humble myself, even in the midst of having a title and/or respect from others. I want my private life to be even more holy than my public life. I want to listen to the cry of my own heart, of this creation that is yet groaning for sanctification. I want to know that God is answering this cry, even when I do not hear it. I want this tension between myself and my God to be something that I engage in actively, where I consistently check my nooks and crannies for intruders.
I want to be hollowed by the Hallowed.
*Remember me, O my God, for good.*
~Nehemiah
pressure
Lately I have felt
nudged
encouraged
commanded
demanded
pressed
reminded
mandated
brainwashed
obligated
indoctrinated
compelled
enticed
tempted
but never called
to love that way.
nudged
encouraged
commanded
demanded
pressed
reminded
mandated
brainwashed
obligated
indoctrinated
compelled
enticed
tempted
but never called
to love that way.
Monday, 29 March 2010
the jig is up
I like hugs.
And people.
And hand-holding.
And kisses, too.
I know that I have said for the longest time that I am not stimulated by touch, that it is not a way that I receive love, and all of my adult life I really have believed it. I yet hold this position, but with much modification. I think after much introspection that I have come to the right compromising conclusion, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in this conviction.
Physical affection that is insincere leaves me with a feeling akin to touching wet trash.
My quest for honesty at all costs leaves me with a very small window of tolerance for what I accept. My standards for this type of intimacy can be quite unreasonable, I'll admit. But after much thought I can venture that one reason for my funk a while ago was because I have carried on as though I do not need people. With my lack of a cell phone I tried to ignore the pang in my heart that activated every time I thought of someone to call, and then I remembered my plight. Brushing off those feelings came at the expense of my sanity this semester, or lack thereof. What a humbling experience.
I find that I shy away from physical affection because I always have. It is hard for me to open up that part of my love, to let people in and handle it as they will. I am still under the idea that I do not like frivolous, afterthinking touch...but by completely refusing this form of love I am essentially throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
I may be yearning for the affection that I took for granted up until 10 months ago, gestures that were as sincere last May as they were the day that I was born. It is possible that my high standards are derived from experiencing contact that was a physical manifestation of love so pure that it could only be true. Maybe I'm under the impression that I will never experience this again. Maybe I think I'm right. Maybe I am.
I miss that love, so I take an indignant stance against anything that dimly reflects what I once had. I sit in the corner and sulk, but I think my stubborness is beginning to fall away. With each brush of the hand, with each caress, with each embrace, my defense is melting. I am forced to relent, to collapse, to surrender. I am forced to acknowledge my need for God's grace in the form of His people.
And people.
And hand-holding.
And kisses, too.
I know that I have said for the longest time that I am not stimulated by touch, that it is not a way that I receive love, and all of my adult life I really have believed it. I yet hold this position, but with much modification. I think after much introspection that I have come to the right compromising conclusion, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in this conviction.
Physical affection that is insincere leaves me with a feeling akin to touching wet trash.
My quest for honesty at all costs leaves me with a very small window of tolerance for what I accept. My standards for this type of intimacy can be quite unreasonable, I'll admit. But after much thought I can venture that one reason for my funk a while ago was because I have carried on as though I do not need people. With my lack of a cell phone I tried to ignore the pang in my heart that activated every time I thought of someone to call, and then I remembered my plight. Brushing off those feelings came at the expense of my sanity this semester, or lack thereof. What a humbling experience.
I find that I shy away from physical affection because I always have. It is hard for me to open up that part of my love, to let people in and handle it as they will. I am still under the idea that I do not like frivolous, afterthinking touch...but by completely refusing this form of love I am essentially throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
I may be yearning for the affection that I took for granted up until 10 months ago, gestures that were as sincere last May as they were the day that I was born. It is possible that my high standards are derived from experiencing contact that was a physical manifestation of love so pure that it could only be true. Maybe I'm under the impression that I will never experience this again. Maybe I think I'm right. Maybe I am.
I miss that love, so I take an indignant stance against anything that dimly reflects what I once had. I sit in the corner and sulk, but I think my stubborness is beginning to fall away. With each brush of the hand, with each caress, with each embrace, my defense is melting. I am forced to relent, to collapse, to surrender. I am forced to acknowledge my need for God's grace in the form of His people.
Tuesday, 2 March 2010
in like a lion
Coz when it's always winter, but never Christmas,
It seems this curse just can't be lifted
I never thought that I would be able to physically relate to the Relient K song, speaking as a native Georgian who has been spoiled by fickle seasons. I never thought I liked the inconsistencies of 60 degree Januaries....until this year. Never have I ever seen Georgia so resolute in its frigidity! Three snowfalls?!?! I have heard about it before, but I never thought it was possible to experience snow on the ground more than once a year, for more than a day at a time. I took the sporadic summer-y days for granted, even wished them away in the hopes of experiencing a legitimate and consistent winter season. Now that my complaint was filed and processed by Mother Nature, I wish that they had a return policy on requests for greener grass.
This sucks.
It stinks especially since, as the South gets the hang of these colder days, there is no hope for respite in the particular form of snow days at Tech. As we trudge along in the freezing water I am embittered.
Make it stop, God! Warm me up, thaw this world out.
And then I wonder, as I pray this prayer....am I even talking about the weather anymore?
But deep inside our hearts we know
That you are here and we will not lose hope
It seems this curse just can't be lifted
I never thought that I would be able to physically relate to the Relient K song, speaking as a native Georgian who has been spoiled by fickle seasons. I never thought I liked the inconsistencies of 60 degree Januaries....until this year. Never have I ever seen Georgia so resolute in its frigidity! Three snowfalls?!?! I have heard about it before, but I never thought it was possible to experience snow on the ground more than once a year, for more than a day at a time. I took the sporadic summer-y days for granted, even wished them away in the hopes of experiencing a legitimate and consistent winter season. Now that my complaint was filed and processed by Mother Nature, I wish that they had a return policy on requests for greener grass.
This sucks.
It stinks especially since, as the South gets the hang of these colder days, there is no hope for respite in the particular form of snow days at Tech. As we trudge along in the freezing water I am embittered.
Make it stop, God! Warm me up, thaw this world out.
And then I wonder, as I pray this prayer....am I even talking about the weather anymore?
But deep inside our hearts we know
That you are here and we will not lose hope
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